Expectations

I was told once by someone I knew that the best parenting advice they could give was "Be flexible". Be flexible? Really? Are you serious? At the time even though it was explained to me, I just didn't get it. As much as we try not to, I think we all have that "Vision" in our heads about, what it "Will be" like. And now I think I am starting to understand what she means. It's the days that I wake up and think "Today is going to be a good day, I am going to get "this" done, and Dylan will sleep from "here" to "here", and while he sleeps I can . . . ." It's these days, that NOTHING I want to happen happens. And even though I know this, some days, it still upsets me so much. I feel like I have "failed" because my little imaginary vision of the day did not come true. So, I think I get it now. I think I realize that so often I have expectations oh how things "should go" and when they don't, it sets me up for disappointments.

Being a parent can be one of the most rewarding things. I personally can not imagine my life with out my little one around. BUT being a parent can also be challenging. There are so many parents with so many challenging situations. So even though I would love to have expectations of how I would like Valentines day to go, I know they are not always practical. So I am going to be flexible, not have expectations, and enjoy the day focusing on the positive tomorrow. Even though I will not be able to have a night out alone with my husband, I will enjoy the time as a family and celebrate the love I have and be thankful. I thought I would give my positive thought a kick start, and made little heart shape cakes for my family to enjoy. I don't get to decorate cakes much anymore, so anytime I do it makes me smile.

Thanks for stopping by to read my silly babble.

Comments

[debi]

Your little cakes are beautiful!Have a fun, flexible Valentines Day with your family!

[Karen]

Silly sweet babble - and Girl, weve all been there! Dont blink, because hell be off and grown before you know it!Your cakes are BEEEEE-u-tiful!Have a wonderful day!Hugs! KarenSome days are diamonds

[Tristan Robin Blakeman]

We actually PREFER to stay in on holidays! Admittedly, we eat out a lot - but on big restaurant days, we like staying home and being cozy!...your little cakes are TOO luscious looking!!!!

[Becs]

Your cakes are wonderful! I just love how you decorate. I enjoy coming here to see what you have created each week...You are such an inspiration to me! It is great! BEcs

[Terri]

Beautiful little cakes and a honest post. This is life with family. I have been a mother over 25 years now, and a grandmother too.It will always be a balance between caring for others needs and fulfilling our own. Even with my youngest kids in University, I am still balancing out these needs. It doesnt always feel good, but we always know that our children, are utmost in our hearts. So in the end, it is all good. You are a blessing of a mother!You are conscious of the life you are creating in your home. That is truly wonderful!

[Bryanna Lenan]

Yummy... I like this post. Very nice!!

[**CREATIVE CARMELINA**]

its not babble, its the reality of parenting...we have to change and adjust our own expectations and just learn to go with the flow...and you know what...the time really is short...and all these crazy, hair pulling moments are what were going to look back on with fondness, I think...or so Im told...boy my comment is turning into a babble...oops...ciao 4 now...and have a happy weekend...btw that cake looks amazing...yum!

[Marydon]

There ya go, Cassandra! Think positive, forge ahead & all will be bright & merry!Darling little cakes.Happy Valentines Have a loving weekend.Hugs, Marydon

[roc]

omg...i want to eat that little heart cake!

[laura may]

I am not a parent myself, but I think you have a good outlook on it all. Ps. that cake is gorgeous. hope you had a nice valentines day.lm.x

[Cheryl Carey Bass]

For the record, Cassandra, I like your silly babble. I love when people share the honesty of everyday living. It makes it easier to connect with others because it engenders an were all in this together type of community. I can totally relate to your experience with being disappointed when your day doesnt go as planned. I think you hit the nail on the head, though, with your desire to be more flexible. Even though my husband and I dont have the blessing of children, hes helping me learn how not to set my expectations so high. Ive always been such an achiever in most of my life, that it can be challenging to not accomplish all the things I want to every day due to circumstances out of my control. Even sometimes when I see everyone elses amazing blogs, websites, and creations, I can start feeling like such a failure! But, I try to take a few deep breaths, relax, and remind myself to Let go and let God.